Gospel singer Sola Allyson sparks discussions on women’s financial independence in relationships, sharing her personal experience of self-sufficiency.
In a recent video, she shared her personal experience and emphasized the value of self-sufficiency.
Rejecting financial assistance
Allyson recalled being in a past relationship with a wealthy partner. Despite his generosity, she consistently refused financial assistance unless it was absolutely necessary. Even then, she would only accept the exact amount she needed and return any excess.
“You start dating someone today, and by tomorrow, your phone is already damaged,” she said. “Back in my time—well, I can only speak for myself—if someone offered me money, I wouldn’t take it. I once had a very rich boyfriend, and when he gave me money, I refused it. If I needed N500 and he gave me N5000, I would take only N500 and return N4500.”
Social media reactions
Her statement quickly gained traction online, with many social media users reacting to her perspective. Some praised her stance, while others questioned the practicality of such an approach in today’s economic climate.
One user, @Mima_the_1st, sarcastically commented, “What should I do now? Call the king and arrange an award for you?”
Another, @Eniola___sarah, expressed disbelief, saying, “Mommy, why should I reject free money? That was your time. The only part I agree with is when you said girls start asking for money two days into a relationship.”
Some users humorously pointed out the financial struggles of modern relationships. @Jhay_porch wrote, “The moment you ask a Nigerian girl out, her rent expires instantly, and she suddenly becomes hungry. Then, at the end, she tells you she has a boyfriend.”
Is financial independence still relevant?
Others, like @Proudafricanman, suggested that the values Allyson spoke about no longer exist, stating, “The generation she’s talking about ended in 2000.”
Not everyone dismissed her message, though. A few users agreed with her stance, acknowledging that some women still uphold financial independence in relationships. @Rikkyflefle shared, “Some ladies still do this. For example, me—I don’t have the courage to ask for money. I always feel like I can handle it, even when deep down, I want to be pampered.”
On the other hand, @Crownoloniyo noted that Allyson’s viewpoint would likely face resistance, saying, “The ‘Can you afford me?’ type of girls will fight against this with all their might.”
The ongoing debate
Allyson’s remarks have reignited debates about financial expectations in modern relationships. Many believe that accepting support from a partner does not mean losing one’s independence, while others argue that financial self-sufficiency fosters mutual respect.
As times change, so do relationship dynamics. While some people admire Allyson’s principles, others feel that financial support is a normal part of romantic relationships. Regardless of where one stands, her message has certainly sparked a conversation on money, relationships, and independence.
