During an exclusive interview, renowned Nollywood actress, Bimbo Akintola candidly shared her reasons for remaining single, shedding light on her journey of love and loss.
The 54-year-old actress, known for her captivating performances, spoke with fellow actor Emmanuel Ehumadu about her personal life, revealing a story rooted in deep emotional ties.
When asked directly about her marital status, Akintola responded without hesitation, “Are you married?” to which she replied, “No.”
This simple exchange set the stage for an intimate conversation about the complexities of love and the pain of loss. Akintola opened up about the love of her life who has since passed away. Reflecting on her experience, she stated, “He died…I don’t talk about it but he died.
Do you know how long it took me to find him? A very long time, but he is gone.” Her words conveyed a profound sense of grief, illuminating the challenges of moving forward after such a significant loss.
The actress emphasized that marriage should hold greater meaning than societal expectations. “I don’t believe that you get married for marriage’s sake,” she proclaimed. “If you are not going to be truthful to your vows, then why are you doing it?”
For Akintola, the person she envisioned a lifetime with is gone, and the prospect of sharing her life with someone else feels distant. Reflecting on the nature of love, she expressed, “The person wey I fit do forever for don die. He’s gone.”
Her assertion stands as a clear acknowledgement that while one may have multiple loves throughout their lifetime, finding true, lasting love is a rare and precious gift. “Do you know how long it took me to find that one that I knew I could stay with?” she asked, highlighting the rarity of such a connection.
As the conversation deepened, Akintola shared her thoughts on the pressures society places on individuals regarding marriage. “I am also too old to understand red flags when I see it,” she stated. “And I think I am too old to manage and say I am doing something just to make other people happy.”
Her candidness about the societal expectations surrounding marriage resonated powerfully. “Who are those people? To make the world happy, I should marry someone so that the world can say you do am,” she challenged.
Akintola’s defiance of societal pressures is striking; she affirmed, “It doesn’t make sense, I don’t care, I don’t care. No, I won’t do that for anybody.” Instead, she prioritizes her truth.
“I am always truthful to myself because at the end of the day if someone dies, when you stand in front of God, na you and God, one on one you go answer the question, nobody goes answer the question for you.”
This reflection reveals her understanding of accountability and the importance of living authentically.
Despite her challenges with love, Akintola firmly expressed her belief in the institution of marriage, stating, “I do, but the person I did it with is dead, he is gone.”
The raw honesty in her voice echoed throughout the interview, as she admitted that while she has dated, she has not encountered anyone she could envision spending her life with. “I have dated but I have never seen myself marrying those people. I didn’t see forever with those people,” she shared. Marking her steadfast commitment to the idea of true love.
Looking to the future, Akintola was unyielding in her stance. If she were to find a man she could see herself with for the long haul, she would be open to the idea of remarriage, irrespective of her age.
“If I ever see someone and I see forever with that person, I will do it even if I am 82, I will do it, but I won’t do it if I don’t see that person.” Her optimism for future love rings clear, yet it is tempered with realism, recognizing the deep complexities of relationships.”Do you know how difficult marriage is? It is difficult, it is very difficult,” Akintola asserted.
The challenges inherent in relationships require careful consideration, and she is unwilling to embark on that journey with someone unworthy. “You will now go on and do it with someone you know you can’t do forever with,” she concluded, reiterating her stance on the importance of finding genuine and lasting love.
Bimbo Akintola’s insights serve as a poignant reminder that love, loss, and the philosophy of marriage are deeply intertwined experiences.
As she navigates her journey, her reflections will undoubtedly resonate with many who have faced similar struggles, offering a glimpse into the heart of a woman who is unapologetically committed to living life on her terms.
